Etiquette. Basic rules of behavior

Etiquette is a historical phenomenon. All rules of etiquette, which are expressed in certain forms of behavior, unite the moral, ethical and aesthetic aspects of life. The first side expresses a moral norm: thoughtful care, respect, protection. The second side speaks of the beauty and grace of forms of human behavior.

Etiquette as a set of laws of communication

Already in ancient primitive society, during joint work, certain requirements and norms of behavior were developed for all members of society. The oldest codes of conduct that have survived to this day were created five thousand years ago. The ancient Chinese “Book of Historical Legends” lists five basic human positive qualities: philanthropy, loyalty, wisdom, respect for elders, and courage.

Over time, new mores, customs, and morals appeared. Standards of behavior have been honed over centuries and merged into the concept of “etiquette” - a certain code of conduct, norms, and responsibilities that people must adhere to in different life situations.

Etiquette rules for kids

The youngest children already know how to wave goodbye or smile when they meet. Dads teach boys to offer their hands for a firm shake, and mothers introduce babies on the playground, even if the baby himself peeks out from behind the parents.

When raising a child, adults, without noticing it, teach him lessons in etiquette, rules of communication with peers (“Say hello to a friend,” “You can’t take away toys, you need to ask permission,” “A girl needs to be let ahead and protected”) and with elders (“Give flowers for mom”, “Go and meet dad from work”, “Help grandma carry the package”).

Later, children will learn to use cutlery, thank their mother for preparing lunch, and behave correctly when visiting and in public.

You need to teach your child the rules of etiquette from a very early age. It is a shame for schoolchildren who do not give up their seats on public transport to older people. And, as you know, the easiest way to teach a child is by example. After all, his parents are both an authority and a role model for him. Follow the rules of etiquette yourself, and your child will know and apply them.

Communication with friends and loved ones

If friends constantly send various nonsense (pictures, unnecessary links) to your work inbox, distracting you from work, then the best way out is to ignore it. Install a spam filter and when asked if the pictures were received, answer that no, since they are filtered out as an attack.

If women try to extort personal details, you can either refuse to answer, or be frank, keeping silent about intimate details and not saying anything about a person behind his back that could not be said to his face.

If a girl has received an invitation to a party or to visit, but she is going to go there with a young man, you need to first ask the organizers of the holiday if it is possible to come not alone.

If, after gatherings in a cafe, friends decide to split the bill equally, you can make an excuse by saying that you did not intend to spend a large amount today and pay only for yourself.

On a date you want to eat, then you need to boldly tell your gentleman about it, perhaps he will invite the lady to a cafe. But you should not order the most expensive dishes, because the visit to the restaurant was not planned, and the bill can put the man in an awkward position.

When breaking up, it is better to express everything in person, not limiting yourself to an email message; moreover, this will confirm your firm intentions not to meet again.

Should a woman accept an expensive gift from a fan to whom she is indifferent? The rules of etiquette leave this to the discretion of the woman herself, but this does not oblige her to anything. If the gift is unpleasant, you can return it with an explanation that it is not possible to give something of equal value.

If a man brags about his former successes on the personal front, you can safely explain to him that it is unpleasant for a woman to listen to this. As an argument, you can ask a man if he would like a story about a woman’s victories.

Etiquette rules when meeting parents

When meeting the parents of your other half, you want to make the best impression, remaining yourself and observing the norms of social etiquette.

There is no need to demonstrate your excitement, you should not try to hide it under the guise of feigned bravado and relaxedness, it is better to behave naturally.

It is not customary, when visiting potential relatives for the first time, to start a conversation about the furnishings and interior of the house. When sitting down at a set table, you need to take the place indicated by the owners of the house. Be sure to maintain an upright posture and not relax at the table.

There is no need to be overly active from the very beginning of acquaintance or take the initiative to talk. It is better to behave correctly and modestly and answer questions from the groom’s parents. On the very first day of meeting you should tell about yourself only when the owners themselves ask you to do so.

It would be rude to refuse the offered treat, otherwise you could seriously offend your potential mother-in-law. It is advisable to try all the treats offered by the hostess and be sure to express admiration for their taste.

You need to try to stretch out one glass of alcohol throughout the evening, without succumbing to the tricks of a cunning father-in-law or father-in-law, making toasts and adding alcohol.

Girls should not smoke when they first meet; young men can only smoke after an invitation from the owner.

If the reason for getting acquainted was any holiday, then you should take care of gifts for parents in advance. You cannot give pets as gifts, except in cases where it is known for certain that a specific animal is required. Perfumes, individual cosmetics and lingerie are also taboo, because only a fairly close person can study the tastes of the housewife. Shirts and ties are given only to relatives, so you should not present them to your future father-in-law or father-in-law on the first day of meeting them. It is better to choose beautiful flowers in neutral packaging and choose a good book.

There is no need to prolong your visit; you cannot stay too long visiting. When leaving home, you need to invite the parents of the bride or groom to visit in return.

Table manners

Eating etiquette is determined by traditions and national characteristics. But the general rules are the same; every cultured person must know a minimum of them.

Women are invited to the table first, and then men. Being late for lunch and dinner parties is considered unacceptable. They sit at the table, maintaining a certain comfort distance - not close, but not very far either.

When sitting at the dinner table, elbows should not be placed on the table; an exception is sometimes made for women, but only for a short period of time.

Buns and bread are taken by hand, broken, and not cut with a knife. You cannot bite whole pieces of bread; small pieces are broken off. Even children are not allowed to roll bread crumbs into balls or play with cutlery or napkins. When eating, do not tilt your head low over the plate; carefully bring the spoon or fork to your mouth. You need to drink and eat silently, without slurping or sipping loudly. It is indecent to eat quickly, even if a person is very hungry.

The knife should be held with the right hand, and the fork with the left. However, they do not use a knife, according to the rules of etiquette, when eating spaghetti (you need to use a fork and a large spoon), seafood (you need to pick up crayfish with your hands, and prick shrimp with a fork; there are special tweezers for crabs, lobsters, lobsters), fish, jellies and puddings ( You can use a fork or spoon).

When Yuri Gagarin was invited after the flight to a reception with the Queen of England at the palace and was offered a treat, laying out a huge number of different forks and knives on the table, the great cosmonaut was embarrassed. Queen Elizabeth came to his aid, saying that although she grew up in the palace and knew the rules of etiquette by heart, she still did not remember the purpose of all these devices. If at a reception a person does not know how to behave, you can simply observe others or ask for advice.

Etiquette in a business atmosphere

By observing the rules of etiquette at work, a person forms his own positive, reliable image of a competent, knowledgeable, well-mannered partner. Experienced employers pay special attention to maintaining etiquette.

You need to be punctual and calculate the time correctly. You cannot say too much to others, discuss your employer and colleagues. You should think not only about yourself, but also about the interests of your partners.

You should dress according to the established norms of a particular society. It is imperative to monitor the correctness and purity of speech. Diction, intonation, pronunciation must be clear. It is unacceptable to use obscene words. The ability to listen to your interlocutor is a valuable quality.

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“Etiquette is the ability to yawn with your mouth closed.” Brigitte Bardot

At the moment, there are quite a few stories on the Internet about the good deeds of strangers; it has become especially popular to translate grandmothers across the road.

Many people admire this, post the video on the Internet and receive many enthusiastic comments. That is, the modern average person is surprised by this behavior. But this is what every educated person should do, this should be normal, ordinary behavior that does not require applause. There are rules by adhering to which society will achieve harmony in communication and relationships. This is etiquette. By observing etiquette, it is difficult to quarrel, create a scandal or offend someone. To develop friendly relationships, you just need to wish people well. Do as you would like to be treated. Knowing etiquette will come in handy if you like to impress others. This can be achieved by your appearance, speech culture, and ability to behave in various situations. Following etiquette will also help you avoid stupid situations when you want to please, for example, your boss or your significant other’s relatives.

The word “etiquette” appeared in France, during the time of Louis 14. One day, at another magnificent reception at court, everyone was given label cards; they listed the rules of behavior that the guests had to observe. This is how the concept of “etiquette” appeared - good manners, skill behave in society.
There are several types of etiquette:

• Court etiquette;
• Diplomatic etiquette;
• Military etiquette;
• General civil etiquette.

In this article we will consider some subtypes of general civil etiquette.

How to behave when meeting/acquaintance

The general rules of greeting are that younger people always greet older people. The man is the first to greet the woman. And if you enter a room where there are already people, then regardless of your gender and age, you need to say hello first.

When greeting a woman or elderly people, a man should definitely stand up. A woman should stand up to greet elderly people, high-ranking persons, or if she herself is receiving guests.

According to the rules of decency, to get acquainted you need an intermediary, preferably a mutual acquaintance, someone who will introduce you to others, or vice versa. If you want to introduce someone, then you need to use phrases such as “let me introduce you to..” or “meet this...”. Next, it’s worth briefly explaining who the person is to you, for example, “Meet Vova, my colleague and good friend.” The younger ones are introduced to the elders, the man to the woman. After someone has been introduced to you, you need to introduce yourself and say the etiquette phrase: “very nice” or “glad to meet you.”

When meeting for the first time, it is customary to say “you” to each other. In general, according to etiquette, any person over 12 years of age should be addressed as “you.” It is also indecent to “poke” sellers, waiters, etc.

A very important nuance is the handshake. Not shaking a hand extended to shake hands is considered an insult. The right hand is always given. When shaking hands, a man always stands up. The woman herself decides whether to offer her hand or not. If you are wearing gloves, you should remove both gloves; ladies do not have to do this. And on the street you don’t have to take off your gloves, but if one of the greeters did this, then the second one should follow his example.

Kissing when meeting is acceptable with friends and relatives. A man can greet a woman with a kiss on her hand.

Away and at celebrations

Firstly, it is indecent to visit without an invitation. But if this happens, then warn them with a phone call.

If you are a guest, try not to be late or arrive early. Punctuality is a very valuable quality. Also, you should not stay at a party until late; you need to leave on time, just as you should arrive.

If you receive an invitation, it is rude to refuse without a good reason. But the height of indecency is to agree to an invitation and then not come. In this case, it is necessary to explain the reason.

Don't go on a visit without a gift or treat.

When visiting with children, you should only go to houses where there are also children, or if you know for sure that they will be welcome.

If you are receiving elegant guests, then you should not offer slippers; they will look ridiculous with an evening dress or tie.

Think in advance about how to seat your guests. It is better for the hostess to sit down so that it is convenient to leave the table without disturbing others. When going out to see guests, you need to take off your apron.

<Если у вас один гость, не стоит его оставлять одного, более чем на 3 минуты.

In the restaurant and at the table

Going to a restaurant requires evening wear, but if it happened spontaneously, it’s enough to look decent.

The man should move the lady's chair and help her sit down. Only then sit down yourself. You need to stand straight at the table and not put your hands on the table.

Usually, waiters come up themselves, seeing that visitors are ready to place an order. But if this does not happen, under no circumstances should you shout to call him or knock on the glass with a fork for the same purpose. You should attract his attention with a nod of your head.

According to etiquette, if one menu is brought, then the lady orders first. If you don't understand serving and don't know which fork to eat this or that dish, it's better to start from the far end, but you can sneak a look at how others do it.

It would be the height of indecency to eat from a common dish or reach across the table for a salt or pepper shaker. In such a situation, you need to politely ask those sitting next to you to give you what you need.

Forks and spoons that have fallen from the table are picked up by the waiter. Bottles of alcohol will also be opened by the waiter.

Fish and fruit bones should not be spat out; you must use a fork.

If you suddenly receive a call, you should apologize to the others and move away. It is indecent to talk to people sitting at another table, even if they are your friends.

According to etiquette, the bill is paid by the one who invited you to the restaurant. If the dinner is friendly, then the bill is paid in half. It's not nice to find out this in front of the waiter.

Respect others in transport

Most people travel by public transport every day. In order not to spoil your mood and not become a participant in a scandal, you need to adhere to some rules. When boarding a bus, trolleybus, etc. you need to allow people to leave, then let the elderly, pregnant, and disabled people go ahead. Men must let all women pass.

Seating is intended for the elderly, people with disabilities and expectant mothers. A man can sit down only if those standing nearby from this category give their consent, you need to quietly ask: “Do you mind if I sit down?”

If you have a large bag or backpack with you, it is better to take it off your shoulder so as not to disturb others.

It is rude to talk loudly in the salon.

If you are traveling with a friend or girlfriend and you are separated by a crowd, you should not fight your way through the entire cabin, you should wait for your stop.

If you are traveling with your children, then you need to make sure that they do not run or scream, because they can cause inconvenience to others.

When leaving the transport, men or those younger are the first to go out to help those in need: give a hand to a woman, a child, help pull out a bag, etc.

If you are traveling in a car, you must open the door for passengers: women and the elderly. A man can get into the car as he wants, but for a woman there is an order - first you need to sit down on the seat, then cross your legs, get out - in the reverse order.

At the theater, at a concert, at the cinema

It is customary to go to the theater in evening dresses. At a concert, the outfit is determined by its theme.

It's best to arrive early to secure your seat. If you are late, and your seat is in the middle of the row, then you should move towards it facing those sitting, making sure to apologize for the disturbance.

Before the performance, you need to turn off your phone so that a random call does not disturb either the audience or the actors. Talking or discussing a performance or film is prohibited.

If you come with a lady, you don’t need to lean towards each other so as not to disturb those sitting behind you.

You are not allowed to eat or drink during the performance. This is bad form. This is not prohibited in the cinema, but you need to know the limits so as not to run across the entire row to the toilet.

If everyone follows these simple rules, then going to the theater or cinema will leave only good impressions. Unless, of course, the film or performance itself lets you down.

Nuances of communication on social networks and when using mobile phones

It is difficult to imagine the modern world without mobile phones and the Internet. Some forms of communication, such as video calls, can easily replace face-to-face communication. The more popular mobile communications and the Internet are, the more important it is to know rules of etiquette when communicating, so as not to be considered tactless.
Basic rules of mobile etiquette:

• Your ringtone should not offend those around you by its content or volume;
• During important meetings, at the theater and cinema, switch your phone to silent mode;
• Turn off your phone on board an airplane and in medical facilities;
• In public places, especially in minibuses, you should not make calls, since others most likely do not want to listen to your conversations;
• Don’t touch someone else’s phone without permission, there’s probably a lot of personal information there, and the owner is unlikely to like it, even if it’s your friend. It is also not allowed to answer other people's calls without permission;
• Don't put your phone on the table in a cafe or restaurant, as your partner may draw the wrong conclusions. For example, that you are expecting an urgent call that is more important than dinner with your partner;
• Don't be silent during a conversation. If you have nothing to say, then try to end the conversation or try to keep the conversation going;
• If you find a missed call, you need to call back within 1-2 hours;
• When making a call, know that a decent dialing time is 5 rings, then persistence.

As for the Internet, correspondence on the Internet is divided into business and private. The content of private correspondence is determined by the degree of familiarity. But you should always remember that there is a real person on the other end, try to be polite and tactful, because your face is your words. In business correspondence you should adhere to some rules:

• Take care of your and other people’s time, don’t bother, don’t spam, don’t flood;
• Please include a subject line in emails. This will make it easier for a busy person to discover that your letter is on point;
• You should not use emoticons in business letters. In general, it is better not to overuse emoticons;
• Follow the rules of chats and groups in which you communicate;
• Do not offend the feelings of believers, remember that there are people of other faiths next to you;
• If you want to have pleasant interlocutors, you need to be like that yourself.

As people's living conditions change, education and culture grow, some rules change. For example, previously a woman could not afford to wear trousers, but now it is generally accepted. Behavior that is unacceptable in one context may be appropriate in another. Everything changes with time, but politeness is always in fashion.

In modern society, it is important to have good manners and be able to behave correctly in different life situations. Etiquette has many features and is a complex science. The main subtlety is that there are no clearly defined norms of behavior; everything depends on the circumstances, time and place. The rules of etiquette between a man and a girl will make communication more pleasant, and good manners will help to have a psychological impact on the partner.

What are the rules of etiquette

The concept comes from the French word “etiquette”, which means a set of generally accepted rules of behavior, knowledge of the basics of politeness. There are several main types of etiquette:

• the ability to present oneself: the formation of a wardrobe, grooming, physical fitness, gestures, postures, posture;
• speech form: ability to give compliments, greetings, gratitude, manner of speech;
• table etiquette: ability to eat, knowledge of serving standards, table manners;
• behavior in society: how to behave in an office, store, exhibition, museum, restaurant, theater, court;
• business etiquette: relationships with superiors, colleagues, business negotiations.

Rules of good manners for men

If a representative of the stronger sex values ​​his reputation in society, he will always observe moderation in clothing. Shorts and T-shirts are appropriate for a family dinner or during a country vacation. For an informal setting, sports or classic clothes are suitable, and for business meetings a tie and jacket are required. As for good manners, it will not be difficult for a well-mannered man to politely nod in response to a greeting even from a stranger. How to communicate with a woman, superiors, and relatives will be discussed below.

Modern etiquette for women

The first rule for a woman is tact in all situations. Etiquette lessons involve behaving respectfully with everyone, be it your neighbor, your business partner, or your front door cleaner. If a woman likes to joke, then she should clearly determine in what situation you can allow a joke, and with whom you need to be serious. It is necessary to observe a culture of communication with the opposite sex. You should not flirt, make advances or make eyes at men you don’t know or know – this is a violation of etiquette. Politeness presupposes simple communication without intrigue, gossip and rumors.

Etiquette standards for children

Rules of behavior in society also exist for children. Future success, career, and environment will depend on the knowledge that a child receives in childhood. The simplest methods for mastering the rules of etiquette are reading fairy tales, watching cartoons, using board games on a given topic, and humming songs. The basic rule of politeness for a child is respect for all adults, children, and animals without exception. Everything else flows smoothly from this.

How to behave in society

Basic set of etiquette rules for men and women:

1. Don't come to visit without calling. Only if you are visited without warning can you afford to meet a person in home clothes.
2. Do not place your bag on a chair or on your lap. A bulky backpack can be hung on the back of a chair. A purse or small handbag is placed on the table, and if a man carries a briefcase, then it should be left on the floor.
3. When meeting someone, say your name first if you are going to communicate with a group of people. Only the right hand should be served.
4. The passenger must sit in the back seat of the car. The most prestigious seat is the one located behind the driver.

In communication with people

A typical day for a modern person includes many situations in which culture of behavior and demeanor are tested: communication in stores, on public transport, meeting colleagues, rules of speech etiquette at official receptions, etc. As for the first meeting with a person, the impression is created on how well the interlocutor knows how to introduce himself. In everyday etiquette, younger people or men make acquaintances first. To make a good impression, you should always start your conversation with a smile.

How a girl should behave with a guy

Modern etiquette for girls requires knowledge of the basic rules of behavior with the opposite sex. When meeting a man for the first time, you should not throw yourself on his neck; it would be appropriate to simply extend your hand. On a date, you need to behave lightly and naturally, joke and smile, but not be offended. You can’t help but tell a man about your shortcomings or unsuccessful relationship experiences at the first meeting. There is no need to shout about the advantages either; you can mention them, but in passing.

Basic Etiquette

The rules of cultural behavior are simple: culture of speech, which has a stylistic and grammatical orientation, well-groomed appearance, attentiveness towards the interlocutor, the ability to provide a service to those in need, and listen to the speaker. The norm of acquaintance and subsequent communication is conditional, therefore it has the nature of an unwritten agreement about what is generally accepted and what is not. Every cultured person should know and follow the rules of etiquette, understanding their necessity for society.

Good manners

A well-mannered person is immediately distinguished from the crowd. He is distinguished by knowledge of etiquette and a certain manner of behavior: voice intonation, expressions used in speech, gait, facial expressions, gestures. This is restraint, modesty, the ability to control emotions, actions, words. To correspond to the concept of a secular, educated person, you need to know and follow certain rules that are considered mandatory in a decent society:

• when greeting, the woman is the first to offer her hand to the man;
• men greet everyone without exception while standing;
• when introducing a guest to other people (during acquaintance), they call his name, surname, patronymic (during business communication - profession);
• visiting does not bring a bad mood, and if negative emotions are present, then the visit should be abandoned;
• Children should not be allowed to interfere in the conversation of adults, interrupt elders, or whisper in the ear;
• No comments are made to other people's children in the presence of their parents;
• When giving gifts to people, you should be tactful, taking into account gender, age, and profession.

Dressing skills

The rules of etiquette oblige you not only to know the correct manner of greeting acquaintances and strangers, to be able to maintain small talk and adhere to decorum in behavior, but also to wear clothes appropriate for the occasion. Nothing catches the eye like colorful things. Things that are inappropriate for a man include embroidered shirts, vulgar suits, and too bright ties. Business clothes should be moderately fashionable. In the morning you are allowed to wear a jacket, frock coat or suit jacket. The color should correspond to the season: light in summer, dark in winter.

The ability to dress tastefully is the first sign of a woman’s upbringing. The Encyclopedia of Etiquette contains a range of rules related to clothing, the observance of which distinguishes a real lady. Women's clothing should be appropriate to the nature of the work. An image that is acceptable in a model house will not be acceptable in a brokerage office. For a business lady, a too short skirt or a low-necked blouse will not suit a business lunch or conference. If the meeting is at a resort hotel or club, you need to take several outfits that will be suitable for different situations.

How to present yourself correctly

A few more generally accepted norms of etiquette:

• you need to walk with a straight posture, a tucked stomach and straight shoulders;
• communication norms regarding greetings include polite words, but they are not always correct, for example, “good afternoon” should not be said to a person with an upset face;
• even unfamiliar men should help ladies enter the premises by holding the front door;
• the word “please” should be used with any request;
• Before saying goodbye to your interlocutor, you should first prepare for this: “Unfortunately, it’s too late,” and then say words of gratitude or a compliment (if it’s a woman).

Rules of etiquette when communicating

The rules of etiquette must be observed when communicating between women and men. The male representative should follow to the left of the companion and be the first to enter the restaurant. If a lady greets acquaintances, the gentleman should also greet them, even if the people are strangers to him. Without a woman's approval, a man has no right to touch her. Allowed only in moments of assistance (getting into a car, crossing the road). Smoking in the presence of another person, regardless of gender, is possible only with the permission of the interlocutor.

There are certain rules of speech behavior. So, if you are insulted in the presence of other people, you should not succumb to provocations. Get up and leave the scene. You cannot ask your interlocutor for information about his material well-being, love affairs and other personal things. If you invite a business partner to a meeting, do not forget about punctuality. Particular respect should be shown to people who showed generosity or came to your aid in difficult times - they were not obliged to do so.

Conversational etiquette

Rules of politeness exist in any conversation. Speech behavior is divided into written and oral forms, with the former having more stringent rules. There are several types of conversations: business, official, informal. The oral form has simpler rules, for example, instead of a verbal greeting, you can get by with a nod of the head. The ability to speak politely is to tell your interlocutor only those things that you yourself would like to hear. The basic principles of conversation are correctness, brevity, accuracy, appropriateness.

How to communicate with someone on the phone

Compliance with the rules of netiquette should also be observed when communicating on the phone. During the conversation, you need to carefully monitor your intonation, since the interlocutor does not see your face and may misunderstand the meaning of the message. You should not keep the person calling; the maximum time to pick up the phone is six rings. There is no need to rush to the phone either - it is better to answer after the third ring. It is customary to call the interlocutor by name if he is familiar. If not, then it is advisable to introduce yourself first.

Good manners and business etiquette

The basic norms of behavior include the rules of business communication. But not only the speech component is important when contacting partners, body language also plays an important role. For example, when talking, you should not spread your legs wide, keep your hands in your pockets, or hunch over. Excessive gestures are also not encouraged - in order not to embarrass the interlocutor, gestures should be restrained. Pay attention to the person’s personal space – the distance should be no less than arm’s length.

Household etiquette rules

Family members should be especially polite to each other. To maintain a warm relationship, you need to constantly monitor the psychological climate, sincerely rejoice in the successes of loved ones, not resort to insults during quarrels, use the words “sorry”, “thank you”, “good morning” and others to communicate. It is necessary to respect the older generation and not read the personal notes of your children without permission.

How to behave at the table

The main rule of behavior at the table is that you cannot chew with your mouth open. Talking is also undesirable, especially when chewing food. Before you put some of the common dish on your plate, you must first offer it to the rest of those present. You should not serve your own plate first, but give the opportunity to guests or older family members to do so. When setting the table, common cutlery is placed next to each dish. The soup must be served in special bowls from the person sitting to the right.

Etiquette at a party

Receiving friends and visiting them is a good practice in the etiquette form of dating. Dinner is considered the best time for a reception, but people should be invited in advance so that they can adjust their plans. The dress code may be informal. According to etiquette, an unfamiliar guest is called everyone present by name only after his own introduction. In a friendly company, you can skip serving the main course, but during a business dinner this is unacceptable. It is important to be able to use different types of cutlery, even if the owners have other national traditions.

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In fact, the basics of etiquette are quite simple. This is a culture of speech, basic politeness, a neat appearance and the ability to manage one’s emotions.

website presents to you a selection of current rules that every person who respects himself and others should know.

• If you say the phrase: “I invite you,” this means you pay. Another formulation: “Let’s go to a restaurant,” - in this case, everyone pays for themselves, and only if the man himself offers to pay for the woman, can she agree.
• Never come to visit without calling. If you are visited without warning, you can afford to wear a robe and curlers. One British lady said that when uninvited guests appear, she always puts on shoes, a hat and takes an umbrella. If a person is pleasant to her, she will exclaim: “Oh, how lucky, I just came!” If it’s unpleasant: “Oh, what a pity, I have to leave.”
• Do not place your smartphone on a table in public places. By doing this, you show how important a role your communication device plays in your life and how much you are not interested in the annoying chatter going on around you. At any moment you are ready to leave useless conversations and once again check your Instagram feed, answer an important call or get distracted to find out what fifteen new levels have been released in Angry Birds.

• You should not invite a girl on a date and communicate with her via SMS messages.
• A man never carries a woman's bag. And he takes a woman’s coat only to carry it to the locker room.
• If you are walking with someone and your companion says hello to a stranger, you should say hello too.
• Many people believe that sushi can only be eaten with chopsticks. However, this is not entirely correct. Men, unlike women, can eat sushi with their hands.
• Shoes should ALWAYS be clean.
• Don't make idle chatter on the phone. If you need an intimate conversation, it is better to meet with a friend face to face.
• If you are insulted, you should not respond with similar rudeness, and, moreover, raise your voice at the person who insulted you. Don't stoop to his level. Smile and politely move away from the ill-mannered interlocutor.
• On the street, a man should walk to the left of a woman. Only military personnel can walk on the right and must be ready to perform a military salute.
• Drivers should remember that spraying mud at passers-by in cold blood is blatant incivility.
• A woman may wear her hat and gloves indoors, but not her cap and mittens.
• Nine things should be kept secret: age, wealth, a gap in the house, prayer, the composition of a medicine, a love affair, a gift, honor and dishonor.

• When you come to the cinema, theater, or concert, you should go to your seats only facing those sitting. The man goes first.
• A man always enters a restaurant first, the main reason is that based on this sign, the head waiter has the right to draw conclusions about who is the initiator of coming to the establishment and who will pay. If a large company arrives, the person who invited you to the restaurant enters first and pays. But if a doorman meets visitors at the entrance, the man must let the woman through first. After which the gentleman finds empty seats.
• You should never touch a woman without her desire, take her by the hand, touch her during a conversation, push her or take her by the arm above the elbow, except when you are helping her get on or off a vehicle, or cross the street. .
• If someone calls you impolitely (for example: “Hey, you!”), you should not respond to this call. However, there is no need to lecture or educate others during a short meeting. It is better to teach a lesson in etiquette by example.
• The golden rule when using perfume is moderation. If in the evening you smell your perfume, know that everyone else has already suffocated.
• A well-mannered man will NEVER ALLOW himself to fail to show due respect to a woman.
• In the presence of a woman, men smoke only with her permission.
• Whoever you are - a director, an academician, an elderly woman or a schoolboy - when entering the room, say hello first.
• Maintain confidentiality of correspondence. Parents should not read letters intended for their children. Spouses should do the same towards each other. Anyone who rummages through the pockets of loved ones in search of notes or letters is acting extremely rudely.
• Don't try to keep up with fashion. It's better to look unfashionable but good than fashionable and bad.

• If after an apology you are forgiven, you should not return to the offensive issue again and ask for forgiveness again, just do not repeat such mistakes.
• Laughing too loudly, communicating noisily, staring at people is offensive.
• Don't forget to thank your loved ones, relatives and friends. Their kind deeds and willingness to offer their help are not an obligation, but an expression of feelings worthy of gratitude.

And finally, here are the words of the legendary American actor Jack Nicholson:

“I am very sensitive to the rules of good manners. How to pass a plate. Don't shout from one room to another. Do not open a closed door without knocking. Let the lady go first. The purpose of all these countless simple rules is to make life better. We cannot live in a state of chronic war with our parents - this is stupid. I take great care of my manners. This is not some kind of abstraction. This is a language of mutual respect that everyone understands.”

In modern society, lately people have often begun to talk about the rules of etiquette. What is this concept? Where did it originate? What are its features and types? It is etiquette and its importance in society that will be discussed in the article.

Origin of the concept and its meaning

The established norms of moral behavior in society are the result of a long process of forming relationships between people. In the modern world, economic, cultural, and political relationships are impossible without observing generally accepted norms and rules of behavior, because you cannot exist in society without respecting each other.

The main types of etiquette are: court, diplomatic, military, general. Most of the rules are the same, but the diplomatic one is given great importance, since deviation from its norms can harm the prestige of the country and complicate its relations with other states.

Rules of conduct are established in many areas of human life, and depending on them, etiquette is divided into:

• business;
• speech;
• dining room;
• universal;
• religious;
• professional;
• wedding;
• festive and so on.

General rules of etiquette in specific situations

Greeting is the very first and main rule of behavior for a cultured person; since ancient times it has been a criterion of a person’s upbringing. The world has celebrated Greetings Day every year for more than 40 years.

The second main rule of etiquette is mastery of communication culture. Her skills and ability to conduct a conversation allow her to achieve what she wants and conduct a competent and polite dialogue with people.

Currently, telephone conversations are the most common form of communication among the population, therefore telephone etiquette, or the ability to conduct this kind of conversation, plays a great role in society. When talking on the phone, it is customary to clearly express your thoughts and be able to stop in time to give the interlocutor an opportunity to speak. Some companies provide special training to employees in the ability to conduct telephone conversations.

Good manners are the main component of cultural communication, some of them are taught to us from childhood, and the rest we learn in everyday adult life.

The essence of etiquette and its importance in society

From a practical point of view, the importance of etiquette is that it allows people to use forms of politeness to communicate with other people.

Of great importance in communication is a person’s appearance, the ability to behave correctly in public places, when visiting, on holidays.

The manner of speaking and the ability to tactfully conduct a conversation are of considerable importance. To be a good conversationalist, you need to know what you are talking about and be able to express your thoughts in such a way that they are interesting to your interlocutor.

You need to be able to manage your negative emotions and negative mood. According to the rules of etiquette, the best way to defeat negativity is a human smile.

Society values ​​the ability to listen to an interlocutor, attention and attentiveness, the ability to come to the rescue in a timely manner and provide a service to someone who needs it.

Based on a person’s behavior, his skills and style of communication with other people, one can easily determine the level of his upbringing.

So what is etiquette? This is a set of rules and behavior generally accepted in society, as well as a culture of actions. The established rules of communication and behavior of people reflect their lifestyle, living conditions, customs, therefore etiquette is also the national culture of the state.