What to do if I'm stupid everywhere. What if I'm stupid? Signs of Dullness

Hi, I had a similar problem. When I entered university, I could only learn two paragraphs in a whole day. I won’t give it 100%, but probably this problem arises when a person does not develop and overload his brain with work for a long time. Not performing routine, learned functions, but real brain work. The result is some kind of stagnation. A person must develop, and the brain first of all. And if you want to fix everything, you need to start thinking with your head)
At first, I tried to learn a verse every day, at two, and repeated them to myself in the evening. Memory and concentration greatly improve, but do not think that by learning three to five poems you will become a genius, there will be improvements, but not immediately. Maybe in two weeks the first successes will begin and this will only be the beginning)))
Chess is great for good reasoning and logical thinking. Well, I think everyone has heard about this ancient strategy. By the way, a story from life: my friend went to a chess club and somehow took me with her) That glorious evening I was introduced to the rules of the game, and you know what’s funny...that same evening I was beaten by a five-year-old boy) The feeling was indescribable !)
If you read, do not just scan the text with your eyes, but think about what you are reading, analyze the actions, and draw conclusions.
And of course, don’t despair, the emotional component is very important. Maybe there are some poems that you like or these could be song lyrics. It is very difficult to start all this and improvements will come gradually, but the main thing is not to give up. Choose a program that suits you and only think that with every verse you learn (game you win, any small step) you become better, smarter and happier)))
This is, of course, just my personal experience, but as I remember, after five poems in a row, I was full of joy and pride in myself!) Good luck and success to you! The main thing is the desire to move forward and a little effort put into the desire =D

I `am stupid. What if I'm dumber than a chicken? I feel uncomfortable around people. I have a dull, empty look, there is nothing to talk about with me. I can’t correspond and talk for a long time because I have nothing to say. Sometimes I don’t even understand what people are talking about. I have no desire for self-education, it is difficult for me to study or understand something. I'm just a lazy, weak-willed wimp.
In all the educational institutions where I studied, I had a lot of C grades. When, like the majority, we received good grades without stress. I live in a world of my fantasies and grievances. At first I thought that the problem was in the environment, but then I realized that people change, new ones come, but nothing changes for me. People don't trust me because they probably think I'm stupid. Behind my back they call me a fool. Would you say that I have low self-esteem? No, I'm just stupid, so nothing will change if you tell me about self-esteem. I took it from scratch. I observe and understand that people are smarter than me, and I’m just a laughing stock, who graduated from school and college with grief. Even my parents value me less than my sister, because my sister is smarter and studied well. I represent nothing of myself as a person, I have done nothing worthwhile in life. An ordinary neurasthenic. I hate myself.
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Dumb, age: 23 / 28.11.2012

Wit, talents, sense of humor, abilities, etc. are not in themselves something good, kind, or dignity. Although, they are not something bad. A person who thinks slower than others is no worse than others.
The only virtue is humility, without it no good is possible.
If you don’t have any talents, it’s okay, God still loves you. The main thing is to have humility and everything will be fine! :)

Alexey, age: 42 / 11/30/2012

Alexey, well, I’ve come to terms with the fact that I’m stupid, but that doesn’t make life any better. Nothing is
things got better in my life. What's the point?

Dumb, age: 23 / 30.11.2012

You are wrong to think so and you are wrong to call yourself that. Let them think whatever they want about you. But you can't think about yourself like that,
critical. For example, I understand everything about bicycles, but not about diesel engines. That is, I am “dumb” in them,
because I don’t know anything about them. And somewhere at a construction site (as it was) - I was probably considered stupid. So what.
You see, the main thing here is to find your favorite thing. And it is advisable to be useful with it. Will be appreciated and needed
to you. You just need to stop being lazy. By the way, to some extent physical activity improves
thinking. Therefore, do not disdain any kind of gymnastics. Find something to do and, no matter what, become
"specialist". I think this is interesting. You will definitely be different from your sister. Ask where to get it
motivation? Well, now it’s the Nativity fast - try fasting. You know, limiting yourself in food is like
it sobers you up, you start to think productively. You assess your plight differently. (I know from myself). IN
In general, the feeling of hunger motivates action. Give it a try. But if you do this, then do it right (according to
charter), since it is a sacred matter.
And also, sometimes it’s beneficial to be a “stupid” person, as you say. But this is rather a trick. And at the same time how
protection. That is, sometimes it is better not to get involved in dubious “smart” things or conversations. Well, for example, someone
someone starts talking about a “lofty”, empty topic and you realize that it’s essentially nothing, and then you
you say: “Oh, I don’t understand anything about this, my friend...”. You're pretending to be a fool. In general this way
you stop and ignore idle talk. I say this from my life - anything can happen.
So don’t worry. Rather, it is not a matter of intelligence, but of charm (for a woman) and abilities (for a man). I am like-
I think so.
Yes, and there is also a saying: “Keep your mouth shut, you’ll pass for a smart person.” It works - fact. Or this: silence is golden, and
only the best, explanatory word is just silver.

Kirill, age: 28 / 12/01/2012

Hello! From your message it is clear that you are not at all stupid, even literate, able to express your
thoughts man. You write much better than many on the RuNet, and this already says something :) Don’t force it
situation. By being nervous and calling yourself names, you only make things worse, closing the circle of discontent. Try it
understand yourself, take time to sit down and think carefully about what you don’t like about
Your life at the moment and what needs to be done to change it. Perhaps your low success in
Are your studies related to the fact that what you studied was not interesting to you? In this case, there is no need to worry about it -
lack of interest leads to lack of motivation. The problem then is not your imaginary stupidity, but
wrong choice of specialization, which in itself can be corrected, and therefore is not tragic :) Communicating
with people, don’t think that you have nothing to say - first, smile, be friendly, listen
speaking and then, I’m sure, you will find something to say in response if they turn to you or just politely
keep the conversation going. Don't give in to decadent moods! Everything will work out for you, you'll see!

Lucic, age: 23/12/01/2012

The worst thing is when they are stupid and mean. The main thing is not to be mean. And being stupid isn't a bad thing. Bribes from stupid people are smooth. AND
smile more. A smiling fool somehow looks more cheerful than an angry, sad and nervous one :) Previously in Rus' (in
long ago) FOOL was the name given to the mother of the family, the keeper of the hearth. Then this word has a different meaning
found. But there is a point to this. Fools often create good families, and “too smart” ones learn five languages,
buy
apartments, cars, and sit in their apartments in splendid isolation with their noses up and three formations. U
My girlfriend also doesn’t always understand what we’re talking about. But there is so much light and positivity in her, she has such
a smile that everyone loves her. And “dumbness” is perceived as peculiarity and uniqueness. Came out last month
marry a rich, mature and intelligent man. And I understand him, with her arrival his house was filled with joy and
light. So be neat, clean, kind, joyful and open. Love yourself and people. And be
happy.
Also, watch Forrest Gump. Brilliant film. There his mother says one very significant truth: “A fool is not
the one who does not understand everything, but the one who acts badly." In different voices it sounds a little differently, but the essence
remains. The film has a huge number of awards. Critics gave the film a second title - The Carrying Man
good luck. But the problem is not that you are stupid, but your inflated demands on yourself, perhaps dictated
parents. You don’t live by your own desires and needs, but try to squeeze into someone else’s picture of the world. From
That’s why you don’t have the energy to create, that’s why you’re lazy - you don’t want to do what you don’t like, but
what you like, you have long forgotten. That's why you're nervous, because you're trying to please someone, but it's not
yours, everything is alien to you. You need to look for yourself and yours, then you will feel good. And yourself
you will find when a protest arises in your soul: “That’s it, I don’t want to dance to anyone’s tune. I’m an adult, I’m capable of it myself.”
make decisions and be responsible for them. And I know what I'm doing!"

Marushka, age: 29 / 02.12.2012

You have a "high" opinion of yourself. You write practically without errors, so you have no right to call yourself stupid =)
Don't compare yourself to others. I graduated from school with a gold medal, one 4 prevented me from receiving a red diploma,
I'm currently studying in graduate school... But you know, sometimes I also feel stupid and unfulfilled... I understand that
There are people much smarter than me, but realizing this shouldn’t ruin my life. Don't communicate with people who
make you doubt your capabilities. Try to decide what interests you in life, what interests you
It’s interesting to study, for example, maybe you want to learn how to do nail extensions, go and learn, that’s where it’s at
something that even a stupid person can handle. Simply put, don’t beat yourself up, don’t offend yourself and don’t get hung up,
do something, find people with common interests and then everything will be fine.

Goldy, age: 23 / 01/09/2013

I also went to college, but I can’t do more than one test. I hate myself for this, I take it out on my loved ones.

Gala, age: 26 / 01/25/2013

Hello, I have a similar situation. I say that it’s not exactly the same, but similar, because I think that everything is ten times worse for me (I am a great sinner... in order to take revenge on an evil man, I took off the cross and turned to a black voodoo magician, I deceived God himself... and I do not confess sins, I offended my own mother, who paid for my studies, working 20 hours a day alone, 4 years in three places and for everything and everyone, and I only graduated from 1 educational institution and not with excellent marks). No one ever believes or trusts me, because I forget about everything within an hour due to a double head injury, and people think that I did it on purpose.

Good evening! You have a very interesting site and exactly what interests me. If you, the author, graduated from a university, then you are not at all stupid, because not everyone graduates from university in our time. People are not smarter than you, perhaps they just have life experience, if they are much older than you and you will gain it over time and everything will be okay. Other people have, according to statistics, no more than an average level of development. For initial socialization in society, a person needs at least a normal family, a job, and then children, when they are ready in all respects and are completely confident in themselves. Laziness is common to all people. Maybe you need some group training or a consultation with the famous psychoanalyst Dr. Kurpatov. You will definitely do something else in life. People may need any of your help. Life in Russia forces you to be more mobile, more active, bolder, although personally I have not yet succeeded in this, since I cannot win in a verbal skirmish, except in some cases. In general, any job actually forces any person to do 50% good and 50% evil, so other people are not very significant either. For example, banks issue a loan that can help someone with treatment, additional payment for the last year of a child’s education somewhere, while putting others deeply in debt for months and years if the loan is large and with high interest.

Christina, age: 26 / 03/07/2013

You know, I understand you, I thought I was the only one in the world...

Emi, age: 19 / 18.05.2013

By the way, you didn’t make a single mistake in the text, except for the missing letter in the word “educational” (typo), which already speaks of your education. At a time when most scribblers on the Internet make mountains of ASHIBOK, and put 20 commas or zero commas. You are not that simple. You are smart. You have not been appreciated since you were a child. This is where it went wrong. I am sure that you, like me, want to cover everything in knowledge and interests, and therefore have nothing. Go to some events that do not require the exchange of information - exhibitions, museums. Start practicing any art. This will be your topic. Good luck.

Vladislav Kukharchuk, age: 22 / 06/05/2013

By the way, yes, you are very competent. A person who can express his thoughts so clearly and write competently is no longer stupid by default. :)

Tanya Du, age: 19 / 20.06.2013

Since I went through such thoughts about myself, one thing I can say is accept yourself as you are, you have no other choice. The most important thing is to sort yourself out, understand yourself, and don’t worry about what they will think of you and how others will evaluate you. How it says, “You’re not a 5-dollar bill to please everyone.”

Elena, age: 37 / 06/24/2013

Hello)) you are stupid (?), but you are 24 years old, and I am already 35 years old. And today I once again became convinced of my stupidity.. But I am already old and it is a problem to fix anything. Yes, and I’m extremely lazy, there are a lot of excuses to do anything..
But, in my opinion, you have a talent for expressing your thoughts.. Perhaps you are not as stupid as you think, and there is still time to become more proficient (to study), perhaps you will become a good journalist, or you will become a successful writer ..
So all is not lost.. Try it.. maybe it will work..))

Anastasia, age: 35 / 09/05/2013

Yes Yes Yes. I have exactly the same problem as you. My sister is also more loved than me, because she is smarter. She has good grades. And I also thought that the problem was my self-esteem, but no. There’s nothing to talk about with people, I used to think that I just came across people who weren’t particularly talkative, I wasn’t thinking correctly. And I hate myself too. It's a total nightmare with grades. I thought I was the only one.

Musya, age: 17/10/08/2013

The same thing happens to me as to the author. Well, at least I'm not the only one in the world.

Inna, age: 22 / 10/16/2013

Trust me, you are not stupid! I didn’t find a single mistake in your story, either grammatical or punctuation! And I understand this.

Vladimir, age: 13 / 02.11.2013

Read a lot of books

Aigerim, age: 15 / 01/08/2014

I understand you, I have absolutely the same situation.
I don’t agree with those who say that if a person writes without errors, then he cannot be stupid; literacy is not an indicator of intelligence, but compliance with standards. I can write on the Internet without errors, sometimes it’s even good to express my thoughts, but in life I’m so stupid that I can’t carry on a single normal conversation.

Liana, age: 18 / 02/15/2014

For a dumb person, you have unusually correct sentences and deep thoughts, beautifully expressed in words. You have one of two things - either depression or you are scamming us. The third option is that you're just too shy. this can be fixed. I've been working on myself all my life. Although, on the contrary, I consider myself smart, but not able to communicate.

Lada, age: 41 / 03/21/2014

Alexey, if you resign yourself, you won’t achieve anything.

Nyashka, age: 16 / 04/22/2014

It's exactly the opposite, ma'am.
You don’t “don’t love yourself because you’re stupid,” but you consider yourself stupid because you don’t love yourself.
There is an option that you do not love yourself because it seems to you that “no one” loves you. And maybe it’s even a specific “nobody”.
Another possibility is that you haven’t found your topic. It's difficult to communicate with people you don't understand (because you're not interested in their interests). I hope everything has changed for the better in 2 years.

Sergio, age: 43 / 06/08/2014

Good afternoon.
I won't try to convince you that you are smart. You may be dumber than the average person. It's not scary. I'll say something else.
In my concept, there are two types of people. Smart-Stupid and Lazy-Not Lazy. So, being stupid and not lazy is much better than being smart and lazy.
Stupidity is not a sentence. It is simply a state of mind that nature gives you. And this cannot be corrected, no matter how hard you fight.

Dimitriy1861, age: 35 / 07/03/2014

Read books and be a little braver!

Stesha, age: 21 / 07/14/2014

You don't have to worry so much about it. You have already changed something in your concept of life. Appreciate every minute of life. Don't waste your golden time thinking about it. Value your time. After all, no one knows what might happen to us tomorrow. Have as much fun as you like. Rejoice and make your loved ones happy with this.

akilay.lala, age: 16/07/24/2014

Hello, how is it?
Are you still pretending to be stupid?

Anonymous Petrovsky, age: 22 / 12/27/2014

Realizing that you are stupid is the first step to wisdom

Just came to have a look, age: 18 / 03/09/2015

You need to try to do as well as possible what you have to do. This is especially true for those who “don’t strive” (they just “have to”, not “want” to do something). This is a way to become smarter
at least in something. Because you don’t really want to hang around like shit in an ice hole all your life. I am such a person myself. I'm probably dumber than the dumbest people. If only because I stay at the same level for a long time
development. Those who studied with grade 3 are now much more competent in some things than I am.
Whatever field you take, I have superficial knowledge everywhere: politics, culture, geography, medicine, sociology. I, a biologist by training, cannot sit down, get rid of the pens, and, finally,
figure out what mechanisms are responsible for the crap that’s happening to me. Complete despondency (which is a sin if we touch on religion). Of course, laziness is easily explained: we are actively developing
until reproductive age, so that they can care for their future offspring. Further development is no longer so necessary. Therefore, very often people stop developing already at the age of 20. Or
It becomes more difficult for them to develop. But there are people who are not lazy to train their brain. They probably now, instead of writing a sad comment, sit and calmly read
another book, they understand the next field of activity. They know how to be interested. They interest themselves. But I still need to be interested in “someone.” And I’m no longer a schoolgirl, I
I should already be able to do it myself...

Svetlana, age: 22 / 04/24/2015

No, you're not as stupid as I am! I don’t know anything at all and now in one year I want to learn 3 important subjects for me and go to college to become a programmer, even people close to me
They say where did you go, there’s nothing in your stupid head! you don't stand a chance. You graduated from college, but I can’t even get into it; the exam has pretty easy questions, but I can’t even answer such
I don’t know the answers to easy questions. I’m already 21 years old and I only now understood how I should have studied correctly.

Sanya, age: 21 / 04/25/2015

I want to tell you that you are not the only one who suffers from this! I also consider myself stupid and I’m scared, I can’t build a relationship, everything becomes clear on the first date, I always start being stupid and that’s all.
Then I understand where and what was wrong when it’s too late. I withdrew into myself, stopped talking, because I know that again I will say the wrong thing, that people will laugh behind my back, or even in my eyes
and my soul hurts from this, what will happen next is even scary to imagine, I don’t want people to take advantage of my stupidity, I don’t understand why I live at all.

Rita, age: 27/05/30/2015

To some extent, everything you say is an excuse. Yes, you don't deny that you are lazy. But maybe it's not your laziness. The fact is that you yourself do not want to achieve something. If you
If she really wanted to, she could achieve a lot.
I don't think grades are an indicator of intelligence. The education system in Russia, in my opinion, is not the most magnificent.
If you don’t have topics to talk to people and you’re too lazy to develop yourself somehow, then pick up a book. Something very interesting, recognized by many. It doesn't have to be serious
literature. Have you read Harry Potter? If not, then just start, you won’t be able to stop later. Find your favorite genre of literature, read more books, and you will notice that your speech has become
better.
If you really don’t want anything at all, then watch TV series. Only really good ones. And watch in the original voice-over with Russian subtitles. Thus, without doing practically anything, you can
learn a little foreign speech.
Good luck.

Askr, age: 17/06/03/2015

The main thing is to do whatever you want, whatever you like. I myself studied with straight A's, but I had low self-esteem. I transferred twice and was not liked at the new schools. Must have
goal and dream and strive for it.

EeOneGuy, age: 19/12/11/2015

I have the same situation, I’m an introverted fool, I only write one thing correctly, I’m just not sociable... :(even though I’m only 13 years old

Nastya)), age: 13 / 01/02/2016

High five, I’m also a dumbass) everyone calls me that)) my parents remind me every day that I’m not a person and people don’t perceive me)))) but I communicate normally with everyone and
when it comes to lessons and everyone in the class sees that I’m stupid, they turn away from me, the attitude changes)) I changed sooo many schools and had no friends anywhere))) I
I'm used to it) just accept it and don't pay attention.

Valya, age: 15 / 01/06/2016

I think that you are not so stupid, because you understand all your disadvantages and shortcomings. If we believe you that you do not have a good mind, then I can only say that you simply don’t get carried away about
To achieve this, look for the positives in yourself and improve them.

Di, age: 20 / 30.01.2016

Just believe in yourself and believe that you can achieve something. Just sit on the couch and say that you can do what you can’t do, and do it. You just have to
Believe in yourself and everything will be as you want.

Korovin Oleg Igorevich, age: -- / 02/01/2016

So I have exactly the same problem as you, author! I constantly feel inferior! Back in school, I realized that I am not very smart! I have always been
a responsible student! I almost never missed lessons, always did my homework, and still nothing stuck in my head! (((I don’t know basic
things, and I envy those who can carry on a conversation on intellectual topics! And besides, when I’m excited, my hands and head begin to shake, and are constantly sweaty
palms, I blush for no particular reason, I’m afraid to communicate with new people! All this is very disturbing in life! Even though I’m quite pretty in appearance, what’s the point?

Anya, age: 24 / 02/02/2016

Learn to value your life...
Yourself and your family... And everyone in general!
Almost everyone has this problem at your age... Try to have fun. And share it with everyone!)) Good luck))))
I wish you success)!!))))))

psychologist, age: 36 / 04/26/2016

Stop whining and saying that you are stupid! You are an adult and no longer a little child. You're just special in a different way
All. Are you offended that no one wants to trust you and blah blah? You know you have a childish character. You are easily offended.
Finally, grow up and understand that how you treat yourself is how they will treat you. You will be treated as
you will allow. Let's say you didn't study well. But perhaps studying was not interesting to you? Maybe you have another one
talent. Tell me what interests you? Maybe you have a dream? You know, my brother tells me that I'm stupid and at the same time
says I'm smart. Why? Yes, because I make a lot of madness and mistakes - this is my stupidity. And the mind is what I don’t allow
no one should humiliate me. Don't ever let anyone say that either. Don't tell tales that this is your opinion. Maybe
Someone already told you that or you made some mistake that you regret. A person learns from his mistakes. Not
look back to the past. First of all, love yourself. Let's start life with a clean slate. If you haven't done anything worthwhile
Do It. Everything starts small. Believe in yourself! If you continue like this it will end badly. It's not too late yet.
You're probably lonely, that's why you write like that. Make yourself a lot of friends. And yes, if you want to do something worthwhile, start
help old pensioners, children from an orphanage. Not only the rich, but also the most ordinary people can help. Create
good and this will be the most huge worthwhile thing.

Tina, age: 14 / 04/27/2016

Oh, how these phrases irritate me: “most of them got good grades without stress.”
Do you seriously think that those classmates of yours who brought home A’s and B’s didn’t do anything for it? Did someone put knowledge into their heads by opening their skull?
And at the institute, people who wrote term papers on their own, for example, did it once or twice?
Nonsense. All this is hard work, almost every day. They had to work hard and use their brains, and they wouldn’t complain now. If you don’t think, don’t do something, your brain will turn sour. And nothing
something new will not appear in them until you personally introduce this new thing there. Read, listen, watch - it's up to you. But you will have to do this, and not wait for knowledge to come on its own, like that
the majority, who supposedly get everything without stress.

Anastasia, age: 23 / 07/27/2016

I understand you very much, it’s not for nothing that I came across this topic. My situation is similar and a little strange, I was always a smart girl at school, smart, understanding and reasoning very differently
childishly My grammar is fine, but lately I’ve realized that I’m starting to get dumber. And the look is already kind of stupid (there is a dull look, when there is emptiness in the eyes, I have it like this. Myself
I look in the mirror and realize that I’m dumb. It’s painful to realize that everything seems to be fine, inside you understand everything more or less, but you feel that you are unable and cannot understand many things
express your thoughts correctly, so that even those around you consider you a stupid girl. But if you're reading this right now, or anyone else who finds themselves in a similar situation, I have a primitive
advice, you need to read a lot, communicate a lot with people, that is, talk, and follow the conversation so that there is no water, and if not with anyone, then with yourself, if everything is so sad. Can
learn sarcasm. It helps. no matter how strange it may sound. and generally forget what Instagram is and watching stupid videos and public pages on VK. they greatly limit thinking and promote
degradation. And of course, sports, it really helps to organize thoughts. You can start a diary and write every day how you felt, how your day went, or at least try.

As, age: 24/09/29/2016

Come on! You are too critical! A really stupid person will never ask such a question)) believe me)) and as for grades at university, this is not an indicator.

Ahh, age: 19 / 09.12.2016

I won’t make idiotic assumptions, for example: “Are you depressed?” “Are you feeling bad?” “You’re just screwing yourself up!” I’m not a psychologist from Malibu :) And you don’t know me at all (just like I don’t know you ).Sorry if my writing is useless but I really want to at least
help a little. Similar feelings depress me now. Right at this moment. It seems to me that your opinion of yourself within the framework of the word “stupid” has no meaning. It hurts and unpleasantly sometimes brings you to tears. Less oppression. It sounds stupid, but take a broader look. Why creatures
who think you are stupid have the right to be called “smart people”? Even if they are right, then what is the point. Look around. You are surrounded by the same social framework and conditions as others. I think there has already been advice on drugs for mental activity. I'm
I’ll just say that even in the dumbest thoughts there is something important) “The Earth is round” used to be a dumb thought too. We all have different frames. The main thing you must understand for yourself.

Kanra, age: 100 / 01/08/2017

If you understand that you are stupid, then you are not so stupid anymore.

Someone, age: 21 / 02/17/2017

A girl makes only one decision in life - chooses her man! And then he decides everything! The main thing is to smile and be beautiful! And let your man decide the rest.
A girl should remain a girl! Weak and defenseless, gentle and caring.
Grades don't decide anything in life!!!
In modern life, those who were nerds at school work for poor students!!!
Be yourself, and don't adapt to someone else, just to please someone!
Everything will work out for you!

You should never speak so badly about yourself, just try to understand and understand yourself. You cannot express your thoughts well and form them, because when you are in the process of communication, you are controlled by the fear of not being good enough in the eyes of others, of not meeting standards. Like any other, this fear has its own motivation, is conditioned by something, and to be afraid means to allow one’s emotions to control oneself, to relieve oneself of responsibility for what is happening, to refuse to make decisions, and to stop on the path of development. Whatever fear concerns, its cause is deep inside our consciousness, it is only our thought, an emotion generated by our brain, which means we ourselves can cope with it, “reprogram” it. Everyone reacts to life events, people, and the world around them differently. In fact, all problems are only in a person’s head; we first firmly believe in them, feel them, then heroically overcome them, spending our energy. Direct it in a constructive direction, to create your own positive attitude, perception of life and create it according to your ideas about happiness - you don’t need to wait for it, create it yourself. I am sure that everything will work out for you. Always, in any situation, under any circumstances, be sure that you can do everything, that everything will be fine with you. Never give up. The first step to get out of the state will be your regulation of your emotional sphere, it requires it. Ideally, work with a specialist. Everything can be solved; there are certain techniques for dealing with fears, anxiety, and tension. You feel that you can’t cope on your own, seek help from specialists, that’s why we get education, to relieve the problems of those who need it. Staying in fear also threatens with real physical illnesses. Your body (a unique self-regulating system), with the help of fear, is already signaling that there are unresolved problems, in this way it is trying to force you to pay attention to itself. You do not feel the fullness of life, there are few joyful emotions in it. You forbid yourself to move forward, to take steps towards achieving success (literally and figuratively). Some areas of life cause you rejection, a desire to change or completely get rid of them, choosing a different path or type of activity. But for some reason you decided that you couldn’t cope (perhaps you were too focused on value judgments and stereotypes instilled in childhood). It turns out to be a vicious circle. Analyze your life: what do you want to change now, but you don’t dare? In any case, you are ready for change, because you have become more mature, you need growth and advancement. Very good - go ahead. Start improving yourself and creating everything around you the way you want, you have every right to do so. You don’t owe anyone anything, you don’t have to explain, make excuses, you have the right to make mistakes, allow yourself to be less than perfect. Before each supposed disturbing moment, reduce the significance of this event within yourself, it only worries you so much, believe me. Use every disturbing situation as self-affirmation training. If you are afraid that you will do or say something incorrectly, then first of all, understand that there will be no punishment other than your inner self, allow yourself to enjoy the process, do not concentrate on assessing correctness, it is better on the motivation for being in it place, with this person, people, on actions, that is, on the fact that you do it with joy, pleasure, benefit for yourself, to do well for yourself or just to gain another experience. And secondly, pay more attention to preparing for this communication: self-development, deepening your knowledge on the subject of communication. You can also do the following exercise: close your eyes and clearly imagine the situation that you fear, think through (say) to the smallest detail the possible outcome of events, just do this not when it’s already scary, but in a normal environment, in a normal mood, drawing in your imagination the most the result you want will happen, believe me. You will see that everything is only within you, there is no source of fear from the outside. Give life the opportunity to flow as it is, without your constant attention to certain aspects. Believe in yourself, you deserve all the best, you can do everything yourself and achieve what you want. You are good, live with this feeling, and if someone tries to prove the opposite to you, then these are only deep internal problems of this person himself. Don't let other people's value judgments undermine your own worth. Learn to value, love, take care and respect yourself. Let things happen naturally. You can do anything, you will succeed, you can handle everything, believe in yourself. Excessive control (including over yourself) takes too much energy from you, spend it on bringing yourself joyful emotions, pleasure, searching only for the good in everything and in yourself first of all. Only those who are filled with positive emotions from within (what are you, your life filled with?) and have an activity in life that consistently brings joy and pleasure can not react with anxiety and fear. Think about how you can now balance your emotional sphere, what can make you forget about the current temporary difficulties and become the core that will not let you break - you definitely have it. This is not patience, not endurance, not a struggle with oneself, but the completely opposite, pleasant, allowing you to join in emotionally, open up, dissolve in pleasant sensations - look for your own way of self-regulation, achieving harmony. Look around, in life there is a lot of things to get drive, delight, pleasure from, someone to help. The source of everything that happens to us, as well as helping ourselves, is inside us, find it. You yourself can accomplish everything and achieve what you want, you already have everything you need for this - strength, wisdom, your life experience, and the means will come, they will definitely appear as soon as you begin to move towards yourself. Each person chooses for himself whether to be happy or unhappy - allow yourself to become whatever you want. No matter what happens, always treat this situation not as a tragedy or hopelessness, but as a step, experience, stage, a chance to change something for the better. Try to find harmony with yourself, understand, feel, realize and accept completely. Believe me, everything will fall into place as soon as you begin to treat yourself with care and respect. This is a very short answer. I can go even deeper into the explanation, but as part of an open answer, I won’t bore you. I wish you inner harmony and prosperity. Write to the chat for a detailed consultation - I will help you understand yourself, find the cause of the problem and ways out. I will be grateful for your assessment of the answer.

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During lessons at school, you thought about boys and parties, at the university everything was paid for, or it simply wasn’t there. There is a glitch in the system when everyone laughs at a phrase you don’t understand. Sometimes you intuitively realize that they are laughing at you. A news broadcast on a central television channel can turn your brain inside out. Hold on darling, don't panic! We will help!

1. “It’s a shame not to know!”, - if you are stupid, then you have probably heard this phrase addressed to you more than once. Yes, indeed, there are such things in life that you simply must know. Where is Australia? Who wrote Anna Karenina? In what year did World War II start? Who is Brezhnev? What is 5*10? What does the cow say? What color is the sun? If you have difficulty answering these questions, or your hands reach for your smartphone, this advice is addressed to you. Find a short course on history, geography and literature for grade 6 on the Internet and study it. Write down the main dates and events and try to remember them. If the 6th grade level is not amenable, use the materials for the 4th grade.

2. Once the basic concepts and knowledge are stored in your head, please do not share them with anyone. You have discovered something new for yourself and it is truly amazing, but the whole world already knows. Don't ask, don't open your mouth. Now some conversations have become clearer to you, but this does not mean that you are an expert and can support any conversation.

3. Sometimes you feel like people speak in codes or in a foreign language. Therefore, when you come across words you don’t understand in conversations, films, books or the Internet, try to remember them. If you are not afraid to seem stupid, ask immediately or later Google the meaning of words that are new to you.

4. Try to spend time watching once a day documentary films. These films talk about everything under the sun, the information is presented in an interesting way, and some films are even exciting, like a Hollywood action film. LIKE Hollywood – key words. Films like The Martian are not documentaries! Please check if the film is truly a documentary.

5. You don’t like reading, it’s boring and difficult. To develop, you simply need to comprehend at least several classics. Download some audiobooks to your iPod and listen to them on the subway or before bed instead of Justin Bieber.

6. You still have to read. No way without reading. Oh...let them be romance novels, even detectives in paperbacks, let them be. Just read, any reading develops your thinking. As you read, don’t take everything to heart and don’t be scared; the absolute truth is not always written on printed pages, more often it’s the author’s imagination.

7. Since you opened this article and reached this point, everything is not so sad. Develop every day as much as possible. If everything is lost, you don't even think that there's anything wrong with you, blissful ignorance will save you, honey. Smile and wave.

Why am I so stupid? Any person who finds himself in a new, unfamiliar situation can ask a similar question. Moreover, the level of education and the degree of reading do not play any role here. He simply does not know what to do, because he has not formed certain patterns of behavior.

It's not scary, but it does give you a lot to think about. To some extent, your own knowledge can even prevent you from feeling true self-confidence. A person who suffers from a lack of self-esteem often finds himself in a situation where he begins to doubt his mental abilities and plagues himself with the question: “What if I’m stupid?”

A person who is dissatisfied with his relationships with people around him, as a rule, begins to look for the truth within himself. In some cases, the search extends over several months or even years. In order to determine your true values, you need additional time. If you don’t push yourself and don’t rush to conclusions, you can restore your peace of mind. The main thing is to be able to understand your own feelings, to understand the true reasons for the events taking place.

Signs of Dullness

By what criteria do we usually evaluate ourselves? After all, it often happens that we exaggerate our own shortcomings, constantly considering them to suit our own complexes. The habit of constantly monitoring your experiences can become entrenched over time and lead to unsatisfactory results. What do you mean, stupid person? Let's try to figure it out!

Inability to hear the interlocutor

Such a person is extremely inattentive to what is happening around him. He concentrates only on his own needs, and therefore tends not to notice people's reactions.

The inability to hear the interlocutor ultimately results in the fact that others begin to consider such a person not very distant. From the outside it seems that he is completely incapable of understanding the subject of the conversation, has no idea what is being discussed, that is, he is a prominent representative of stupid people. In fact, such a person is overly focused on his own experiences.

Poor learning ability

If a person has difficulty remembering any material, it is likely that he has a low memory capacity. At the same time, concentration will certainly suffer. Poor performance at school and subsequent educational institutions usually creates a significant degree of self-doubt. And many young people ask: “What should I do if I’m stupid academically?” They consider it completely useless to learn something new and apply the acquired knowledge in practice. Extreme self-doubt gives rise to additional problems associated with communication and self-realization.

It becomes difficult for a person to concentrate on the task at hand. When thinking about the question “What should I do if I’m stupid and lazy,” you should be guided by an individual approach. Each person is unique and has distinctive characteristics.

Causes

In order for such a sense of self to be formed, good reasons are needed. It’s just that no one considers himself a complete nonentity. The feeling of worthlessness is dictated by the feeling of one’s own uselessness and the inability to somehow express oneself in society. Even once faced with misunderstanding, a person then expects ridicule throughout his life.

Insecure individuals tend to take too many things personally, even things that do not directly apply to them. So, what are the reasons why many people consider themselves stupid people? Let's take a closer look at them.

Habit of comparison

When a person feels stupid, in most cases conclusions are drawn based on comparing their own shortcomings with the strengths of others. And this is a big mistake! People cannot be the same and have the same amount of knowledge in all areas. Almost everyone has the habit of comparing themselves with others. It comes from a lack of self-confidence. The more we soul-search, the more difficult it actually becomes to focus on everyday tasks.

When a person compares himself with others, he thereby admits his own weakness and robs himself of precious energy. This condition cannot lead to anything good, since it hinders development.

Lack of self-confidence

Only by fully realizing one's own prospects can a person move forward. Everyone has opportunities, but not everyone understands how to apply the knowledge they have in life. Lack of self-confidence actually blocks many undertakings and does not allow the personality to reveal itself. Thus, self-realization becomes impossible, since it is hampered by the strong fear of potential defeat that arises.

Each failure is experienced very hard, as if the happiness of a particular individual depends on it. "Why am I so stupid?" - a person constantly asks himself, asking himself numerous other questions about his inferiority. In most cases, he spends a long time looking for an opportunity to remake himself. This is because there is a fear of loneliness inside, coupled with the fear of not being up to par.

Diffidence

Lack of self-confidence is another reason why a person may begin to consider himself a failure. It’s hardly surprising that he doesn’t understand much in life. If you constantly think about your own inadequacy, then you may never make progress in important matters and issues.

Self-doubt makes it very difficult to enjoy life, comprehend its boundaries and open new perspectives. It is impossible to achieve success if you constantly look back at yourself in search of answers to a wide variety of questions. You cannot oppress yourself with painful thoughts about your personal unfulfillment.

Psychological trauma

A traumatic situation is one of the most serious reasons that can undermine confidence in one’s own capabilities for a long time. It is very difficult for a person who is convinced of his impenetrable stupidity to begin to perceive himself in exactly the opposite way.

Psychological trauma and internal conflicts are a serious obstacle to feeling like a full-fledged person. The feeling of happiness depends on many factors, and it is always subjective.

When there is a conviction within that you cannot master the most basic skills, this creates an obstacle to the formation of a happy sense of self. It really seems to a person that he is not capable of anything. Such thoughts are destructive: they do not help in any way to cultivate self-confidence, but only convince a person of complete failure.

Interpersonal conflicts

Another reason why a person may consider himself narrow-minded is a feeling of resentment. It usually prevents us from adequately perceiving the surrounding reality. When some need in life is not satisfied, the individual develops internal deprivation. Sometimes a person does not understand what is happening to him because he has developed the habit of considering himself incapable of understanding the most ordinary things.

Existing conflicts with people often interfere with building normal harmonious relationships. Emotions such as fear, anger, and resentment largely inhibit personal development and prevent the emergence of a feeling of satisfaction. A person always needs to feel needed and involved in the lives of other people.

What to do

In order to get rid of the feeling of internal awkwardness, it is necessary to take certain actions. Without taking concrete steps, it is very difficult to free yourself from feelings of inferiority. What if I'm stupid? When asking such a question, you should be extremely frank with yourself. Having a set of clear steps, you can quickly get rid of the problem.

Working with self-esteem

Stop calling yourself stupid! It is very important to free yourself from the feeling of internal discomfort if you really want to start feeling differently.

There is no need to constantly torment yourself trying to cope with the existing problem. When a person calls himself stupid, he thereby admits his own weakness. Most likely, other people will begin to perceive it accordingly. However, it is worth remembering that a narrow-minded person will never think about his own shortcomings.

Developed reflection just means that a person is smart enough. It's just that some people don't know how to value themselves and find their strengths. You need to learn this! Working with self-esteem begins with accepting your individuality. It is impossible to achieve anything significant if you do not try for it.

Constant self-education

What if I'm stupid? This question usually comes to mind for those who suffer from low self-esteem. And to feel confident, you actually need to make significant efforts. The best thing to do would be to start educating yourself. Systematic exercises increase self-confidence and help release huge amounts of energy that can be used for useful purposes.

Self-education undoubtedly increases self-confidence. Thus, a person ceases to consider himself stupid and narrow-minded. Sometimes it will take a lot of effort to free yourself from the inner feeling of inferiority.

Taking responsibility

This is an important and necessary step in order to continue moving forward when your hands give up. Accepting responsibility means you need to stop complaining about life.

When we stop blaming others for what happens in our lives, visible changes begin. You must try to ensure that your self-confidence grows and strengthens every day. If this is not done, then the person will constantly feel his complete failure in anything and will not be able to start a new business without feeling guilty.

The feeling of one's own stupidity is a purely subjective feeling that you need to try to work with. You cannot get rid of the problem once and for all, because there is no magic pill, but you can work on yourself and change for the better.

Skill development

What if I'm stupid? You must definitely try to improve your abilities. You can’t just stand still and not make any attempts to change yourself.

Developing communication skills contributes to overall productivity. Then any task will be within your reach and will bring moral satisfaction.

It is necessary to strive for a feeling of joy and spiritual fulfillment. The more we work on ourselves, the more prepared we become.

Thus, it is never too late to try to change something in your life. If a person feels quite insecure around other people due to lack of knowledge, this means that he needs to expand his inner vision. There is no need to dwell on the problem. You should always remember that there is a way out of any situation.